Safety planning helps prepare you in advance of potentially dangerous situations. Safety plans are not gender specific. Men as well as women need to create a workable Safety Plan. Violence can erupt without warning, so being prepared during a time of relative peace is the only way to assure your safety.
Just as washing your car will bring the rain, putting your safety plan together may decrease the chance that you’ll have to use it. Think of it insurance for your continued well being.
If you are still in the relationship:
- Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs.
- Avoid rooms with no exit, or rooms with weapons like the kitchen.
- Make a list of safe people to contact.
- Keep money with you at all times.
- Memorize all important phone numbers.
- If you are thinking of leaving, stash important documents such as driver’s licenses, birth certificates, social security cards and immunization records in a place where you can easily get to them.
If you have left the relationship:
- Change your phone number.
- Screen Calls.
- Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the batterer.
- Change locks if the abuser has a key.
- Avoid staying alone.
- Plan how to get away if confronted by your former partner.
- If you have to meet your former partner, do it a public place.
- Vary your routine.
- Notify school, work and child care contacts.
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